It’s as if there’s a sign on every woman which says, “I am female so I must find a mate and reproduce and get married and buy a dog and a five-door car and get a good job…” It simply must be the case judging by the amount of times I’ve been asked if I’m having children or if I want them.
Apparently I just haven’t found the right man and, as soon as I do, I’ll change my mind and want children immediately. Funny that, because I’ve never had a single maternal urge in the whole of my life! Apart from when I held a newborn puppy but that’s different (aren’t they just the cutest things ever?!) I am the least maternal person you could actually meet; I cringe at the mere sight or sound of a child in the vicinity and I feel like the thought of it actually makes my womb contract and my ovaries shut down. This is the complete opposite to what they should be doing, apparently!
I am absolutely sick to death of people assuming that I want to have children and that I’m being mean by depriving my sister of becoming an Auntie. Well sorry but I’m not some sort of factory, used to produce a child just to suit everyone else. I have grown up feeling this way and have had 33 years to get used to it, so don’t you think if I wanted a child I would have one by now or at least be on the way to be having my own family!?
Just like some women who have the urge and make it known on the first date that they can’t possibly date someone who doesn’t want them; I would have to make it very clear that I do not. Just like the other woman, I don’t want to be wasting time on someone who does. Move along and let me talk to that cute looking guy over there who looks like he’s travelled the world and isn’t looking to settle down any time soon!
I really don’t know why everyone says that I should be having children. It must just be because I have a womb, ovaries and a pair of boobs. I often wonder if men ever have this question thrust at them at every single opportunity. I don’t think so.
A quick online search brings up many articles stating the reasons as to why more and more women are shunning motherhood or indeed putting it off until later whilst they climb the career ladder and achieve in settings different to those in which our mothers and grandmothers excelled.
Maybe times are changing, perhaps becoming a mother isn’t the be all and end all for women any more? Perhaps now they are seeing a different ending to their story and are carving out a career path which will lead them to having more free time and income to be able to spend how they wish. Not that there is anything wrong with motherhood, far from it. I think it’s a wonderful thing to do and I applaud any woman who decides to settle down and start a family. However, as far as I’m concerned, I’m happy to play the doting Aunt, the one who gets the kids into trouble with their parents and gets to hand them back at the end of the day.
That’ll do for me.