Whether you’re curled up on the sofa with a cup of tea or having a quick skim whilst on your lunch break, the fact that you’re reading this post means that something pretty awesome happened.
As I grow into my late twenties, I’ve become increasingly aware of the fact that I want to make a positive difference to the world. Okay, I know this sounds a little like I’ve come fresh off a hippy retreat but I can assure you that I’m saying this without sporting a pair of fading corduroy flares. Honestly, this humongous statement isn’t something that I reveal to many people because it seems ridiculous that this minuscule little Suzy could ever possibly make a tangible impact on anybody’s life. Nevertheless, I can’t shake the feeling of needing to do something more. It’s there every single day, hanging over me, impatiently prodding me to get started and stop frittering my life away.
The problem is, this is quite a large weight to carry around when you’re just trying to go about your daily business. It’s even more of an issue when you’re a person who struggles with self-confidence and spends every available minute poring over the infinite details of a plan to do something rather than actually doing it. Before you know it, months and years pass by and you’re no closer to where you thought you might be and you’re not really sure why because you know you want it, you’re just not one hundred percent sure how to get it.
Every single day I see a tweet or an instagram photo that instructs me to start living my dreams and undertake all of the tasks that will deliver me to eternal happiness. Honestly, these posts make me wonder why I’m not the type of person who can go and just DO those things. Well I’m here to tell you that, actually, it’s okay to be that person who can’t just charge through life’s barriers without a care in the world. It’s perfectly acceptable to be a planner, or a slow-burner, or not to be entirely sure where it is that you’re going. All of those qualities are fine because some of us just need a little bit more help than others.
I always knew that if I was to ever get anywhere, it was unlikely that I’d be able to do it by myself. Self-doubt, perfectionism, and over-zealous planning are not ideal friends when you’re trying to get shit done. However, being the only blogger in my social circle, it seemed unlikely that I’d find somebody to fit the bill in the way I needed them to. Then something lovely happened. I met a girl.
No no no, this isn’t Notting Hill. It’s not what you think.
The girl I met was just like me: a blogger with an innate need to make a statement to the world and a wish to leave something behind. Similarly, this girl also struggled with self-confidence and perhaps needed somebody else to encourage and support her. An avid questioner of the universe, I spent a lot of time pondering whether this person was the key to everything I’d been waiting for. It didn’t take long for this question to be answered as, a short time later, we sat together as two friends and created an entirely new venture between us.
I’d spent two long years building myself up to go it alone and attempt to start my own business or run my own magazine or begin a doctorate. Two years which were completely upended within one single Sunday afternoon because suddenly I’d transitioned from thinking about a thing to actually being in it and doing it and running too quickly to even worry about what might happen at the end of it.
Two months later, Beth and I have created this little site that you are currently perusing. We sourced all of these writers who seemed genuinely excited to be part of our project, we worked the equivalent of two full time jobs to get everything done to a standard that our readers would be impressed with, and we got excited and nervous and giddy. We did these things together because we both needed that little extra piece that each other could provide and I don’t think either of us would have any qualms about admitting that perhaps we mightn’t have done it by ourselves.
So if you’re ever wondering where your break is going to come, ask yourself instead if there’s anything that you might need to help you get it. Asking for assistance does not make you a failure; it brings you closer to success. If there’s one thing you take away from this post, it’s that inspirational quotes lie. Not everybody is an instant achiever and most of us need people around to help; be it teachers, support networks, or financial advisors. Going it alone is tough. Whilst I may have wrestled with my own feelings of inadequacy at first, in the end they made me realise that all I needed was a little help from my friend.